Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In
"Transforms negotiation from a battle of wills into a joint problem-solving exercise for mutual gain."
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- 1Separate the people from the substantive problem. Negotiations stall when personalities and emotions become entangled with the core issues. Addressing interpersonal concerns directly preserves the relationship and clears the path to a rational agreement.
- 2Focus on underlying interests, not hardened positions. A position is a demand; an interest is the fundamental need behind it. By excavating the 'why' for both parties, negotiators can discover creative solutions that a simple compromise would never reveal.
- 3Invent options for mutual gain before deciding. The brainstorming phase must be deliberately separated from the evaluation phase. This prevents premature judgment and unlocks a wider array of possibilities that satisfy both sides' core interests.
- 4Insist on using objective criteria to evaluate options. Resolve conflicts not through a test of will, but by appealing to fair standards, precedent, or expert opinion. This depersonalizes the decision and anchors the discussion in legitimacy, not power.
- 5Know and strengthen your BATNA (Best Alternative To a Negotiated Agreement). Your walk-away power determines your negotiating strength. A robust, well-developed BATNA provides the confidence to reject poor agreements and negotiate from a position of principled self-interest.
- 6Negotiate side-by-side against the problem, not face-to-face. Reframing the dynamic transforms an adversary into a collaborator. This psychological shift encourages joint ownership of the problem and fosters a cooperative search for a solution.
The world's bestselling guide to negotiation. Getting to Yeshas been in print for over thirty years, and in that time has helped millions of people secure win-win agreements both at work and in their private lives. Including principles such as: Don't bargain over positions Separate the people from the problemand Insist on objective criteria Getting to Yessimplifies the whole negotation process, offering a highly effective framework that will ensure success.
The consensus hails this as a foundational and indispensable manual, praised for its clear, actionable framework that demystifies high-stakes discussions. Readers consistently report tangible improvements in both professional deal-making and personal disputes. Criticisms are minor, with some noting the principles require disciplined practice to implement under pressure, and a few finding the examples slightly dated, though the core concepts remain timeless.
- 1The transformative power of BATNA in providing concrete walk-away power and negotiation confidence.
- 2Practical application of 'separating people from the problem' to defuse emotionally charged personal conflicts.
- 3The challenge of implementing principled negotiation against entrenched, adversarial counterparties in real-world scenarios.
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